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Delayed Gratification Is Better

Delayed Gratification Is Better

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will.— Vince Lombardi

The world is running faster than ever. More things come easy and instantaneously from fast food to Instagram. We’ve learned to want what we want, when we want it. Many of us are used to this instant gratification and don’t believe in the proverbial saying, “Good things come to those who wait.”

Allow me to share a story about how delayed gratification and mastering self-control could change your life. It’s in The Marshmallow Test: Mastering Self-Control study. “The intelligent desire self-control; children want candy.”― Rumi

In 1973, psychologist Dr. Walter Mischel reported on a self-control study that included using marshmallows, to see how 4-year-olds would resist temptation and delay gratification. He told a group of four-year-old children that if they didn’t eat their marshmallow, when he returned they would receive another one. Some kids waited, whilst most quickly ate their marshmallow. Mischel followed this group of kids for the next 14 years. The results were surprising. The kids who waited later scored 210 points higher on SATs; were more socially competent; and experienced more personal and professional success.

This study showed that willpower is a matter of learning how to control your attention and thoughts. We can’t control the world, but we can control how we think about it. The kids who succeeded in holding off eating the first marshmallow used “taught” skills to change their focus away from the tempting marshmallow.

The real challenge is turning our self-discipline skills into habits, which requires years of diligent practice. This is where our role as parents is critical for our children’s success later in life. According to Mischel, the mundane routines of childhood—such as not snacking before dinner or saving up one’s allowance, or holding out until Christmas morning to open presents—are really exercises in cognitive training that teach our kids how to outsmart their desires. John Dryden said it best, “We first make our habits, and then our habits make us.”

Success in almost anything goes to those who are most persistent, disciplined and never give up. Just like the marshmallow kids, when you have the self-discipline to wait for more, you can ultimately end up happier, healthier and wiser.